I bought this book before the pile even unboxed it for their ridge. I have to say that I was really amazed at how Dr. Warshak nailed the description of my experience with divorce poison, the personality profile of my vindictive ex, and the response and effects I’ve seen it have on my child. It was like Dr.Warshak had interviewed and observed my family personally.

Divorce poison is a sick and serious issue. I don’t wish it on any child or parent. If you feel like you are the target of parental alienation, educate yourself, your ex and anyone (lawyers, therapist, family, etc) who has any part in your protection matter. One of the toughest things about the recent outcome of my two year protection battle is to realize how ignorant the court, forensic psychologist, therapist, school system, and especially the father of my son, are about the power and hurtful effects divorce poison has on a child.

If you are recently separated and struggling with a vindictive ex, please do not take upon yourself things will blow over or die down. Public whose personalities allow them to give explanation for terrible-mouthing, bashing or even brainwashing often be converted into consumed by revenge and cannot let it go even when it is detrimental to the child. Read Dr. Warshak’s book and take action appropriately.

My lawyer made sure Divorce Poison was on our table in full view at all times during our three day protection trial. I just wish the judge could have read it before interviewing my son.

I really agree with the prior reviewer that said this book is a bible. Picking it up and conception it every time I feel the frustration reassures me that I am not the sick one here nor am I the terrible parent. With Dr. Warshak’s recommendations, I can continue to try to foster a healthful relationship with my child while tiresome to address the poison he is life given.

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Randy D. Shillingburg “Long-time fan from WV” (Elkview, WV United States) –

  

If you should read one book on divorce and the impact on children, this is the one!

This outstanding book provides fantastic advice for parents who are badmouthing additional parents, as well as ways the target parents can combat this abuse. Unlike “experts” who have not researched the most effective ways of combatting this type of child abuse, Dr. Warshak has determined through studies that parents who do nothing and say nothing are at risk for eventually losing contact with their children.

Dr. Warshak carefully navigates the delusion that alienation is typically a “woman thing” by citing examples of fathers who alienate. In doing this, the author is able to assure readers that the book is to be sure written “in the best interests of children,” and not for any gender-based biased agenda.

Dr. Warshak’s outlook on children, parenting and protection is refreshing and should be required conception for every family court judge, every family law attorney and every person going through a divorce. The author argues very succinctly and very successful that the two parents who were so vital to the welfare and growth of the children during the marriage are just as vital after the divorce. He also illustrates how family courts and mental health experts remove children from the target parent at the first sign of alienation — which is the exact opposite of what really works in these cases.

Dr. Warshak argues that target parents need time to rebuild this relationship — to show that they are not the parent depicted in the diatribes of the parent who is attempting to alienate. Instead, courts typically accept irrational reasons from a child for not wanting to see a parent lacking examining the root causes for the alienation.

Dr. Warshak carefully crafted a “how to” book for target parents, but, more importantly, he has helped all parents be converted into better parents by encouraging them to examine their right motives for making negative statements about their former spouses. In doing so, this author has bent a classic that must be read by anyone who truly cares about children and the impact that divorce has on them.

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It’s an awkward reality that some parents will do their best to ruin a child’s relationship with the additional parent. So long as those misguided or sick parents have unsupervised time with the children, there’s always a risk of confusion, conflict, or long-term hurt to the bond with the “targeted” parent.

The most vital aspect of this phenomenon is to catch it ahead of schedule, even if the bashing seems to occur on occasion or is subtle.

Eventually, enough small drops of poison can have a devastating importance.

This book is an brilliant tool to help “targeted” parents recognize signs of what the author calls poisoning (also called alienation tactics).

Though the book’s readership would likely readily agree that taking the higher road is always best, what the author emphasizes is that if the higher road is not coupled with a proactive approach, devastation to the parent/child relationship can be the result.

What I found most helpful about this book are a couple areas:

A) I realized that no court order, and no amount of counseling, and no common sense discussion would stop my ex from her subtle, on-going attempts to undermine my relationship with my daughter.

B) I realized that there are many tactics I could use to combat my ex’s attempts… tactics that are nearly all clear and proactive.

The author provides many thoughts to the reader on how to help ensure the poisoning parent’s attempts fall on deaf ears in the child.

Strategies that I learned from this book have proven themselves with incredible results in how I handle my own situation… and the outcome is a young child who (on her own) has been able to conclude that her mother says untrue things about her father.

That’s a best-case scenario when you face a parent who refuses to buffer the children from conflict or disparaging remarks.

Though the attempts at alienation may never end, helping to protect the effects is where this book shines.

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