This book was a revelation … finally I know why my husband behaves the way he does and why I respond to him the way I do … and why we kept engaging in such a futile dance on a daily basis. In a sense, it’s taken us both “off the hook”.

The bottom line is that this knowledge has empowered me. I have changed the way I respond to him. I no longer take his behaviour personally, but instead accept this as a universal problem with many, many men and not just with my man. He’s now conception the book and (for the first time with any book he’s read) said “it makes sense”.

Often self-help books make men feel inadequate. This book instead reinforces that the behaviour of the emotionally unavailable man is completely normal in the circumstances. It acknowledges their dread and hesitancy whilst gently encouraging them to take tentative steps in overcoming their lifelong conditioning. It is a doable “blueprint for healing”.

I don’t want to be the “hurricane” (albeit a very silent one) in my husband’s life. I like him, why would I want to hurt him or make him even more unavailable? I don’t know this book and the newfound patience it can engender in partners will lead to these men becoming much more available to us and others in their lives who are vital to them. This is the first time I’ve really been optimistic that this might be possible. Everybody wants to be understood, and this book takes a quantum leap in helping us to genuinely know the emotionally unavailable man. Thank you sincerely Patti Henry.

Dividing the book into a men’s section and a women’s section was completely apt. Partners absolutely need to be proactive in helping their man in his efforts to change. We need to be patient, encouraging and compassionate. We need to empathise. We need to leave our frustration in the past. These men are invariably in pain. They don’t shut themselves off happily … it’s self-preservation in its most vital form.

I sincerely believe this book should be recommended conception for every parent with a son. It would be a travesty if we bent yet another generation of emotionally unavailable men. We all miss out on way too much in doing so.

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Joanna F. Crawford (USA) –

  

I have recommended this book to so many public and they’ve all loved it. All of the men who I know who have read it have raved about it — and most guys I know don’t really get into “self-help” books.

What makes this book unique — besides a message that is all about how to have healthful relationships — is that it’s written for both men and women. One side of the book is “for men,” then flip it over and the additional side is written for the women who like them.

Several times, I had to stop conception just to have a “lightbulb moment.” This book is fabulous.

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I. Ruth Arnold –

  

I do not usually read self help books and read this one only at the urging of a friend. It is a marvelous book. Not only is the advice it offers extremely insightful and helpful, but this book passes the major test for any book – it is a fantastic read. I found its analysis of typical problems in marriages so helpful that I sent a copy to my engaged daughter and her fiance.

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