Heres a book that most men will be pleased about. Instead of The Boyfriend Test (how men measure up) author Wendy Walsh takes a serious look at what it is the women have to do in order to be converted into a better girlfriend and thereby get the like of her dreams.

As a fellow relationship author Im always attracted in what others in my field have to say about dating, romance, and like. And while I liked Wendy Walshs previous book, I appreciate this one even more.

My favorite part of The Girlfriend Test is when she writes about the 9 types of girls/women. Im sure we can all reflect of a person that we know who fits one of these bills:

1) Daddys Girl: no ones can live up to Daddy
2) The Barbie Doll: the perfect girl as long as youth & beauty last
3) The Girls Girl: the perfect friend to every woman at the expense of her own like life
4) The Material Girl: the one who appears to want money more than like
5) The Miss Priss: the one who lives by family standards primarily
6) The Corporate Cat: the female executive with all the perks except a man
7) The Chatty Cathy: talks too much, too many tales
The Jockette: one of the boys in her recreational activities
9) The Mirror: the one who surrenders to men at her own expense

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My only beef appears on page 22 where she writes, Hes the Hook, But Youre the Fish. And on a philosophical level I have to let her know that an ancient American proverb states, a man chases a woman until she catches him. What that means is the woman is the angler and the man is the fish. (The Power of An Enlightened Metaphor For Like)

Back to her book.

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As far as Walshs tests, there are really 5 of them, all of which are very practical and insightful. Here they are with my favorite question from each test:

The Hook-Up Test (sounds fishy doesnt it?): Question #2 Are you more worried about your appearance than your disposition?

The First Date Test: Question #7 Do you talk too much about past relationships?

The Five Date Test: Question #5 Are you rewarding terrible-boy behavior?

The Girlfriend Sex Test: Question #9 Do you know how to say no to sex?

The Ninety-Day Test: Question #3 Do you know how to deal with the boys club?

Along the way the author also has vital side-bars like tips on going out alone (wash park for safety, meet the business pleased hour public instead of the late-night crowd & leave by 11:30 PM because nothing excellent ever happens after that).

I hope this book gets in the hands of a lot of women. I said much of the exact same things in my second edition of Men Are Like Fish, but the difference here is that it comes from the more trusted accent of another woman instead of from a guy (the nerve of a man talking about like….what do they know, right?)

Anyway, dont be fooled by the whole test thought. While it is more on the tactical side than the spiritual side, it does a darn excellent job of making refined distinctions in the area of hooking (making reliable attachments wisely).

This is one of my favorite new books because it is so focused on this one area of dating which is a key element in the huge picture of fishing for like.

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William B. Bangs (Irvine, California) –

  

It’s weird how now and again a sequel can be better than the original. I had excellent things to say about Wendy’s first book, The Boyfriend Test — but I have to say that this one is MUCH more consistently brilliant and light years kinder to both men and women, a must-read if you were a fan of TBFT.

Once over again, Walsh affects the informal, chatty “girlfriend” style readers of TBFT will remember. But this time the emphasis is on equiping women with the tools to take an inner journey of discovery crafted so as to make them “a better date, and a better mate” on the additional end. Once over again, there are scored tests and detailed elucidations for each item.

But the real heart of this book is at the beginning, and even more so at the end — when Walsh lays out her personal wisdom about the work needed to build life’s most vital adult relationship, as well as the rewards of doing that at-times painful, always revelatory work on yourself BEFORE you hit the trenches looking for a man to share your life with. Drawing on her MA in psychology (and especially something called “Attachment Theory”), Wendy gently, frankly and patiently guides her reader to a house of such inner strength that any guy value his salt would be crazy not to fall head-over-heels for her. Once over again, she shares personal anecdotes so you know it’s real. And unlike in her additional book, you end this one with a satisfied sense that all loose ends have been tied up perfectly — like the pleasantly full feeling you get at the end of a perfect meal among close friends.

So once over again, I find my release, male self endorsing a book by and for women on the subject of dating and relationships. And this time, guys, I can wholeheartedly assure you: Wendy Walsh really DOES feel warm things toward us! In fact, the astute reader of both books will note that Wendy puts women through one more test than she subjects us to. But I don’t know the very best thing here is the sense you’ll come away with that the word “test” has a whole different meaning than it did in school — life less about scoring points, and more about self-realization and keeping your eyes open, keeping your heart and soul’s radar on so as to fail to deal with life’s landmines and go straight for the gold. If you’re a man, this may be fascinating. If you’re a woman looking to develop a higher relationship IQ, “The Girlfriend Test” is pure gold. Excellent for you, Wendy!!

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Dottie Randazzo “Reader of Everything” (Delaware, USA) –

  

I loved this book. My girlfriends loved this book. It is a must for anyone in a relationship. It doesn’t repeat things you already know. It opens your eyes up to things that you should see but don’t.

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